Ask yourself the following question: “What is danger?” It’s a situation in which there is a possibility of getting hurt. This can be a physical threat as well as an abstract one, depending on the situation and individual perception. How can we know all this as an adult? Because we experienced it in the past, we can compare, analyze, decide, and relate it to something that harms us. We all know that if you play with a knife, you’ll get injured. Then what about children?
It’s typical to see a parent chasing after their kid to prevent them from getting hurt. All this begins when children start to crawl, make their first steps, and move, however kids don't know how to anticipate or prevent a dangerous situation. It’s completely understandable, considering that their curiosity and desire to discover the world are stronger than their fear and lack of motor skills; for them it’s better to take risks to play, discover and explore.
For this reason it becomes fundamental not only to protect children from possible accidents and guide them through risky situations, but also teach them about what danger is.
According to psychologists, the first structures developed in the brain are emotional, affective, sensory, and motor. Although internalization of norms, the concept of danger, abstraction and behavior develop at a young age, the process doesn’t fully end until the age of 18.
Once a child reaches the age of 5 or 6, they can gain a better knowledge of the world and the risks involved. This understanding of danger begins to form with various unfortunate experiences such as a fall and its association with pain, or when they feel lost and experience feelings of anxiety.
Between the ages of 10 and 12, the child already has the ability to predict risk. This, however, will always depend on the environment, the education received, as well as the information given to the child regarding the dangers of daily life.
Sometimes it is impossible to avoid danger among children who have lots of energy, great motivation to master new psychomotor skills, and growing curiosity to explore a new corner of the house. The ideal demeanor for parents in such cases would be to stay alert to anticipate what might happen, in order to avoid accidents or unnecessary frights. This, however, involves having to watch your child all day and avoid leaving them alone, which not all parents can afford to do.
Nevertheless, it is advisable for all parents to know that when danger arises, they should take the opportunity to explain where the danger is and what can happen. It is not about terrifying the child, but teaching them the basic safety rules, so they may understand the consequences of such cases and stay away from danger. Be patient: although your child may not speak, they understand you, and with persistence they will be able to comprehend it.
Another option is to adapt the house using child-proof security measures: security locks on windows, fences for stairs and terraces, and protective plugs are some of the ways to minimize unwanted exposure to danger.
Most importantly, remember not to become an overprotective parent. Kids have to learn for themselves and should not be limited by excessive parental care.
According to professionals, children must get to know and explore the world for themselves, while parents must be there for support, minimizing risks and helping to avoid accidents. Below, we list a few recommended guidelines:
Teach your child different techniques for staying calm in scary or unknown situations. For example, you can make your own calming bottle together with your kids: fill a bottle with water, soap, and glitter, and when a child is in a situation where they’re nervous, this bottle will help them calm down. After shaking the bottle the glitter spin and whirl around, but after a few seconds it will settle back at the bottom, which gives kids a visual for enhancing their own calmness.
Teach kids breathing techniques (choose some relaxation music, go to a quiet place and ask them to breathe in through the nose and exhale through the mouth), or play a nice and funny song, which can also help calm down kids when they feel scared.
Encourage your child to increase their self-confidence so that they can explore the environment on their own. Give them the option to choose, explain to them that they can get hurt, but it's their decision whether or not they want to do it.
Explain to kids the meaning of danger, even if it can sometimes be more of an abstract concept that they’ll understand later. Talk about how danger can appear in the form of the following symptoms (physical): shaking or shivering, fast breathing, dry mouth, sweaty hands, and sometimes even temporary paralysis. We know that this can happen to children, too, which is why it’s important to let them know the signs.
Show them the consequences of their behaviour and actions. For example, show them what can happen when you put something (a piece of paper, piece of wood, etc.) close to the fire. If you rush out of the house too quickly, you can fall and get hurt, etc.
Explain with clear examples how to avoid hazards: always walk on the pavement, use a helmet when riding a bike, don't touch any pet on the street without asking permission from the owner, etc.
Author: Itziar Madera, Educational Specialist at Lipa Learning
Parents are always trying to find ways how to understand their child better and sooner. More and more often, new approaches and methods are being developed that help families communicate with their child shortly after birth. That’s because even infants are trying to communicate with their surroundings. They perceive their mother’s voice and human language even before they are born – i.e. in the womb. After birth, children can differentiate a human voice from other sounds and react to it. However, it takes some time before children are able to control their voice system and say first words and sentences. But this doesn’t mean they don’t perceive the world around them and do not wish to communicate with it. They just do it differently than us adults. How?
Growing up to be a well-developed and emotionally strong adult, who isn’t afraid to face challenges in life, has its roots back to childhood. A study revealed that about 10–20% of children and adolescents throughout the world experience mental disorders. The survey found that in children aged 7–14 years, mental disorders are one of the main causes of diseases. Another research carried out by Marie-Laure Baranne and Bruno Falissard at INSERM in France found out that during 2000–2015, the rates of mental disorders remained stable, suggesting that despite a global improvement in the physical health, the mental health of kids was not improving.
Let’s start off with a question: if you have grandchildren, how often do you see them? Or if you’re a parent, how often do your kids see their grandma or grandpa? Do you think it’s too much, not enough, or just enough? According to a British study, 30% of grandparents see their grandchildren multiple times a week, and another study showed that 32% of grandparents see their grandchildren less than once a month, with grandmothers spending more time with their grandchildren than grandfathers. What do these statistics mean? Should kids be around their grandparents more?